Re:Children of parents classified as “tiger” have worse grad...
by Nursie on Friday May 10, 2013 @06:14AM
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If you're nearly 21 why are you still either at home or listening to their rules about who sleeps over where?
You're an adult, these things are now your choice.
Re:Children of parents classified as “tiger” have worse grad...
by RYUUSEiiSTAR on Monday May 13, 2013 @12:25AM
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My parents have made it quite clear that they'll want nothing to do with me if I leave. I've grown to appreciate them quite a lot and more than anything I still want them in my life. I would take the risk and leave if I knew they would forgive me for it, but they won't. I have cousins who have been disowned by their families, and they haven't spoken to each other in years. I don't want this to happen to me. Family is critically important in Asian families and I don't want any of my future kids growing up never knowing their heritage and culture.
If it means I'll be getting engaged a few years earlier than expected, then so be it. I'll drag out the pre-wedding phase until I'm ready.
Re:Children of parents classified as “tiger” have worse grad...
by Nursie on Tuesday May 14, 2013 @06:45AM
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Wow.
This is horrifically unfair on you, in my opinion.
In your situation I would have to say "OK then goodbye, if you want a continuing relationship with me then I'm afraid it's going to have to be on my terms", because you only get one run through life.
Clearly my priorities are not yours though!
Drama? Sports? I was raised by quiet, somewhat anti-social Asian parents all my life, that was never a problem.
Computer games? If it's maths related then that was okay (and I put up with it because I was so intrigued with computers and the sums were easy enough after all those self-study maths books).
19/20 for a test? Why didn't you get 20/20? Your friend did. Begin silent treatment.
I started playing at 7 because there was a program in school and I wanted to be one of the kids who got to leave class for an hour. I loved it at first, and then was moved from the private class to a one-on-one with a specialised teacher. Again, it was something new and I liked it, but it increasingly became tedious and I hated it. I hated the boring music, I hated the scales, I couldn't even reach half the notes whilst playing broken chords. And then I began to despise it. It was only by a slim chance I found an amazing pianist and composer that I fell in love with the piano again.
Now that I'm in uni, life is better, and I've found something I love doing. My grades are better and I can work at the same time without it hindering uni work. My mum is definitely not a tiger mum, she's not that bad, but it does make me wonder if I would be excelling as much as I do now if I didn't have all that pressure growing up.