There's an interesting idea in "Accelerando" that supertech civilizations would value "novelty" the way we [once] valued gold and Bitcoin values rare prime numbers, and it's hard to imagine a better source of novelty than an alien civilization.

Now - that doesn't address the virtuality thing, but I've a friend with a compelling take on that: If we're assuming that any sufficiently advanced civilization would rather simulate us than visit us, then it's pretty reasonable they'd have more than one simulated universe. And it's pretty likely that the simulated universes would have super tech civs that start up their own simulations, causing a recursion, which in turn makes it more likely than not that we're in a simulated universe. And, if we're in a simulated universe, then we're already "in contact" with the host universe/civilization - otherwise, what's the point in the simulation in the first place?