Well, honestly, I didn't start noticing my privilege until I was a fair bit older than 20. It's a normal cognitive bias. Nobody wakes up in the the morning saying, "Thank goodness I have legs," as they jump out of bed. We just accept the positives life hands us as normal. What we notice are the negatives.

Racial privilege was the one I noticed first. And that was mainly because I lived in places where as a foreigner I was outside the normal framework. That made it much easier to see race and class dynamics at work. It was only after that I could start seeing gender dynamics more clearly. But they're still hard, because you can't try be an outsider to that in the same way.

I agree that we should be working toward parity. I just don't think we're there yet.