When I learned about the dongle incident, my first thought was similar—what if a heterosexual man didn't like a joke about some aspect of homosexuality a gay developer was sharing with his colleague?

Actually, now that I think about it, what if the developer who joked about dongles was gay? We know the developer is heterosexual, but Adria couldn't know then. Even if he used gendered language—what if he was closeted and couldn't talk about sex with men publicly? Why did she assume talking about penises meant he was a misogynist?