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Re:What the smartest people do on the weekend, everyone else... by jacques_chester on Sunday March 03, 2013 @03:58AM (#5313053)
> What is the problem with being self-congratulory?

I'd like to say here that having some perspective can prevent certain kinds of mistake. I think that's correct.

I'd be on surer ground if I point out that a person entirely satisfied with their professional perspective isn't going to improve past a certain asymptote that they themselves are unable to perceive.

But honestly? I just find self-congratulation tremendously embarrassing. I don't know if it's inherited or a self-deprecating theme present in Australian culture or just plain old jealousy. Or some combination of the above.

Re:What the smartest people do on the weekend, everyone else... by zosima on Sunday March 03, 2013 @05:47AM (#5313301)
Well, ideas are constantly being heavily pruned and cut to the ground on hacker news.

And some of that pruning is good and necessary. Otherwise, bad ideas would proliferate and take air and light from the good ideas. But often when I read HN's comments, the field just looks like scorched earth. A complete, overpowering negativity everywhere. And I think then the pruning has lost its purpose, and is a bad thing.

I suppose, I would like that whenever an idea was dismissed it would be by pointing to a better idea in the vicinity which could then be thought about or worked on instead. That way the true purpose of criticism and pruning would be clear: To not let the bad ideas take resources from the good ones.

With regards to self-congratulatory behavior in general: well I suppose I understand you. I've been brought up that way too, as has perhaps most people. Still, I recall Russel's own adage:

“The whole problem with the world is that fools and fanatics are always so certain of themselves, but wiser men so full of doubts.”

I don't know the author of the OP, but I do certainly think that negative attitudes create even more doubts in the wise, while fools and fanatics likely are innately immune. Therefore, I don't think that unreserved dismissals usually will do anything to people's character, except for strengthening those traits you really want to see less of, in the wise.

Re:What the smartest people do on the weekend, everyone else... by goldfeld on Sunday March 03, 2013 @10:44AM (#5314074)
Yeah, I think it's not only about self-deprecating humor, but as a broader approach to life, about not taking yourself seriously, ever. Those two are probably the greatest things a human being can have, and I always look for them in peers as a way to find some common ground. Are you embarassed for me?
Re:What the smartest people do on the weekend, everyone else... by Helianthus on Sunday March 03, 2013 @04:09AM (#5313073)
When you congratulate yourself to more than three or four, it's an anonymous personal moment. Otherwise it's manipulation.

And with three or four, it's probably something inbetween.