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Re:Why Developing Serious Relationships in Your 20s Matters by rbkillea on Sunday February 24, 2013 @02:18AM (#5273239)
I found this honestly repulsive. It's one thing to shun those who would steer someone away from what feels natural, and it's another to offer life advice based on what one perceives to be the norm. Just because you got hitched early doesn't mean I want/have to.
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Re:Why Developing Serious Relationships in Your 20s Matters by richardjordan on Sunday February 24, 2013 @02:49AM (#5273327)
Repulsive? Really? Repulsive?

Someone's giving life advice to those younger than herself, based on her own life experiences. Something everyone does, increasingly so as you age - particularly if you care about people. I don't see anything other than good intentions in an article like this. tl;dr: "Prioritize love a bit more over work in your 20s instead of the norm that's emerging of putting that off till later" -- still fail to see what's repulsive in that message.

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Re:Why Developing Serious Relationships in Your 20s Matters by hype7 on Sunday February 24, 2013 @02:26AM (#5273261)
They weren't recommending you get hitched early; the advice was more along the lines of "if you find someone that means something to you, don't deprioritize them just because you're busy at work".

I honestly think it's good advice. Too many of us think life can be run in sequence (hard slog at work > make money > do something I love doing, spend time with family, etc) when really, everything happens in parallel.

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Re:Why Developing Serious Relationships in Your 20s Matters by pdufour on Sunday February 24, 2013 @02:24AM (#5273254)
> it's another to offer life advice based on what one perceives to be the norm.

But isn't that the case when anyone gives life advice? Everyone has their own own perceptions of norms.

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Re:Why Developing Serious Relationships in Your 20s Matters by rbkillea on Wednesday February 27, 2013 @03:36AM (#5291321)
Not if the life advice is any good. It's like your maternal figure always told you, "If your friends were jumping off a bridge, would YOU?" (paraphrased)
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