That sounds like what I said, though I didn't spell out specific parameters on what was meant by "long-term, tested, monogamous relationship".

If one is going to be having sex outside of such a relationship (by which I had meant "when one is not in such a relationship" although I suppose it would apply to cheating too), one should be wearing condoms, yes? That's the part I was talking about, and I don't see how it's the opposite of what people should be doing.