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Re:Too many men suffering in silence, national health report... by TFNA on Monday November 09, 2026 @02:50PM (#50430902)
I have spent a lot of time in countries with strong male community even to this day: cafe culture where the menfolk of the town meet daily, sometimes for hours. I speak the languages and can be a full participant.

As a man, I find those cultures just as vexsome as the cultures of isolation and anomie. Men talking one-on-one or up to three-four people have a good dynamic. But when men assemble into larger groups and a public male society, they inevitably talk about football, fucking women, toilet humor, and other inane things. Also, a pecking order is always established in large male groups, and men on this neurodivergence-heavy site are likely to be at the very bottom of it. Be careful what you wish for.

Re:Too many men suffering in silence, national health report... by gib444 on Monday November 09, 2026 @03:00PM (#50431074)
> Also, a pecking order is always established in large male groups, and men on this neurodivergence-heavy site are likely to be at the very bottom of it. Be careful what you wish for.

A $500,000 total comp engineer with a wife and a house in California set to retire at 50 vs a $60,000 bar tender in Ohio with a hotter wife and muscles. Who's higher in the chain? Genuine question

Re:Too many men suffering in silence, national health report... by TFNA on Monday November 09, 2026 @03:19PM (#50431392)
Now imagine a culture where you have to regularly sit at a cafe table or attend religious observance with men who are overwhelmingly the latter type. Being ostracized or mocked daily would still sting in spite of your enviable wealth.
Re:Too many men suffering in silence, national health report... by six_seven on Monday November 09, 2026 @03:46PM (#50431855)
In the chain of what??
Re:Too many men suffering in silence, national health report... by jlos on Monday November 09, 2026 @04:15PM (#50432271)
Basically agree with you, adding that you’re likely a better candidate for individualism.

Most men (most people) don’t do well as true individuals. They need the inane group cohesion.