> I do still wish you could do more with hooks I might want to allow a given command via a hook [...] given path allows/denies read/write

You can make a script for the PreToolUse hook that can do that. I use a command gate script that parses input for doing that exactly, allowing/denying actions based on tool use + paths -- it started out as a hook to prevent claude from polluting my clojure projects/filesystem with python scripts in sneaky ways. Babashka works really well here