I know this doesn't work for most subscribers to mass media culture, but I'm right there with you. Personally I kind of hate celebrity as a social phenomenon, and I love seeing an amazing talented set and then getting to talk with the musician afterward. I don't give Live Nation my money.

My 12 year daughter REALLY doesn't care about the local band scene. Avoiding mass media culture is alright for weirdos and nerds like us that can get in line physically for NIN tickets because of feelings and nostalgia, but that is not viable for 90%+ of people.

As a parent, you have an opportunity to help her experience music on a different level. I know that is not a trivial thing to do, I have teenagers in my life too.