> if I can’t trust the developers to behave well, i can’t trust the product to continue to do what it says it can do for me.

So you'd be willing to give up Linux because Linus cannot stop verbally abusing people to this day? Because that's what I did. I decided that any project where the main dev(s) openly abuse people in public, is the line I draw.

I know that is an extremely controversial choice that many people will disagree with, but it's my choice to make and I don't regret it.