Re:Am I German or Autistic?
by Mick-Jogger on Thursday April 09, 2026 @09:39AM
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I fully agree with this sentiment. I set a high standard for my punctuality but I don't care if you're late.
I just silently judge you.
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Re:Am I German or Autistic?
by inanutshellus on Thursday April 09, 2026 @09:43AM
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"I don't care I just silently judge you" ... kinda sounds like you care. ;)
Unless I care about the meeting it gives me an easy way out. More than 5 minutes late in that case is "let's try it again another time"
Re:Am I German or Autistic?
by eigenspace on Thursday April 09, 2026 @09:43AM
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"I don't care if you're late" versus "I just silently judge you".
Which one is it?
Re:Am I German or Autistic?
by Mick-Jogger on Thursday April 09, 2026 @09:47AM
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I don't show you that I care would probably be more accurate.
Re:Am I German or Autistic?
by eigenspace on Thursday April 09, 2026 @09:53AM
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Always a helpful and productive approach to solving interpersonal problems.
Re:Am I German or Autistic?
by shermantanktop on Thursday April 09, 2026 @10:48AM
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Me caring doesn’t need to be a problem for others. Should we all shout about our minor preferences and gripes all the time?
There are people like that, and they are exhausting. It’s essentially a selfish use of a communal good, which is the shared environment.
There’s a limit to silent annoyance, of course. But my officemate noisily ate a smelly egg breakfast every day and I just bided my time until I could move.
Not OP but my general approach is similar: "I see it as wrong but do not feel entitled to impose my standards on others".