It's deliberately obtuse to suggest that "words" aren't a big deal.
>One is using force, which naturally leads to resistance and additional attention, the other is not.
I'd say attempting to dox someone and then spreading that information is deploying far more significant force than a minor lazy DDoS attack.
Doxing or attempting to dox someone is effectively threatening them with physical violence. A DDoS is nothing at all in comparison.
Context matters. Which is why also different rules apply, and laws exist to guard these rules. DDoS is not an acceptable response in any jurisdiction, no matter what triggered them. We’re not in the Middle Ages, even if some behave like we are. Violence does not justify violence. Unjust action does not justify unjust responses.
Who the fuck cares about what the law says? Seriously. The service archive.today offers is illegal in any case.
This is just a fundamentally bizarre context to be bringing up the law in.
Then, again: one persons illegal actions do not warrant another persons illegal actions. That’s not how society works, and not how law works.
Both sides look like they have been bullied in the past and not found their way out of reproducing the pattern yet.