Re:I'm 34. Here's 34 things I wish I knew at 21
by elliotmy on Thursday January 22, 2026 @08:52AM
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Fair point. I can see the Freudian slip bit for sure.
Re:I'm 34. Here's 34 things I wish I knew at 21
by archagon on Thursday January 22, 2026 @01:30PM
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Frankly, there are far too many men who have one foot in the “rape is OK” camp. (Framed as “you have to be forceful even if she’s reluctant,” “if she’s drunk or passed out it’s still OK,” “society owes me sex,” etc.) Just look at the insane popularity of Andrew Tate. I think it’s a salient point.
See also: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rape_culture
Anyway, I’d reframe the advice as “be (actual) friends with women and stay the fuck away from the manosphere.”
The issue is that is neither common nor a natural thing for men to "struggle not to rape someone" as much as you think it is. While your intentions might be good, and I do believe that, it reads like some sort of freudian slip.
Imagine if someone wrote "hey guys, let's be honest, I don't really like this thing of urinating on your food before eating, can we just agree to stop doing that :)".
You wouldn't think "oh what a sensible comment, finally someone has the balls to talk about it", no, you would just :O and think the guy is crazy ...