>Would you consider a “charity” [...] an org that has killed and maimed tens upon tens of thousands of children to be a good thing or even charity?

I do not consider Planned Parenthood a good thing. However, I will still admit they are technically registered as a charity with the US government.

Friends of the Israel Defense Forces is rated 98% and 4/4 on Charity Navigator.

https://www.charitynavigator.org/ein/133156445