The nuance of a skilled player in the moment is a beautiful thing to behold, but saying programmed music isn't "real music" is like saying that film acting isn't real acting, but theater acting is.

It's like saying a novel isn't real speaking, but a speech is.

Like animating an image isn't real, but recording a video is.

If that's your preference, then that's alright. But it's a silly distinction to make.