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Re:Childhood Friends, Not Moms, Shape Attachment Styles Most by aidenn0 on Friday November 21, 2025 @11:42PM (#46012171)
My own anecdotal experience matches this.

I have a (now adult) child who was diagnosed with Reactive Attachment Disorder. She changed friends every 6 months, burning bridges behind her. She also cultivated the least-healthy friendships possible in whatever environment she found herself in.

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Re:Childhood Friends, Not Moms, Shape Attachment Styles Most by baconbrand on Saturday November 22, 2025 @12:00AM (#46012265)
How is she doing now?
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Re:Childhood Friends, Not Moms, Shape Attachment Styles Most by aidenn0 on Saturday November 22, 2025 @12:29PM (#46016454)
Pretty well, all things considered.
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Re:Childhood Friends, Not Moms, Shape Attachment Styles Most by balamatom on Saturday November 22, 2025 @04:06AM (#46013326)
What was the etiology?
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Re:Childhood Friends, Not Moms, Shape Attachment Styles Most by aidenn0 on Saturday November 22, 2025 @12:18PM (#46016356)
Entered foster care at 2 due to abuse and neglect; we were her fourth placement in 7 months; weekly mandated visits with neglectful mother and monthly mandated visits with abusive grandmother for 2 years before termination of parental rights. She had nightmares until 3am after every visit with grandmother. We adopted her at 5.
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Re:Childhood Friends, Not Moms, Shape Attachment Styles Most by balamatom on Sunday November 23, 2025 @04:21AM (#46021991)
This sounds terrible. Thank you for saving her.
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Re:Childhood Friends, Not Moms, Shape Attachment Styles Most by aidenn0 on Monday November 24, 2025 @03:22PM (#46038787)
Believe me, we didn't save her; she's doing as well as she is because of the hard work she put in (particularly in her later teenage years). I hope the environment we provided helped her in that, but I don't think I can take much of the credit.
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