> and not on this sort of "I understand that must be very frustrating for you, let me see what I can do to resolve this"

You're triggering me.

Another type that are incredibly grating to me are the weird empty / therapist like follow-up questions that don't contribute to the conversation at all.

The equivalent of like (just a contrived example), a discussion about the appropriate data structure for a problem and then it asks a follow-up question like, "what other kind of data structures do you find interesting?"

And I'm just like "...huh?"