Childless people basically get their cake and eat it too under the social welfare scheme of most western countries, getting the benefits of children without having to deal with much of the drawbacks.
Social security requires two inputs
1) "Paying in"
2) Raising up the next generation to pay it back out.
Without both, the entire system collapses and goes insolvent.
If I do (1) but barely do (2) I am subsidized by the people that do both (1) and (2), if my payout isn't linked to (2).
The genius of social security argument about the childless "paying in" is they rightly identify their pay out is fairly proportional to (1) but nearly completely decoupled to (2). Thus it poses an argument on the surface that makes sense but is actually incredibly false.
Childless people pay into the system like everyone else. They aren't freeloaders.
As a parent myself I find this kind of savior complex incredibly embarrassing. We have kids, great. I'm glad our government offers tax benefits, services, and an immigration process to encourage population stability. But let's not pretend we're Atlas holding the nation on our shoulders.
Furthermore, if the population stays the same but ages, there will be major ramifications to SS.
Furthermore, if the population remains constant but fewer and fewer people have children, then those who do have children bear more and more of the burden of providing for everybody else’s retirement. Responding with “so what, SS will cover me whether I have children or not” is kind of missing the point. And leads straight back to the first point. In a world that requires people to have a substantial number of children to survive (like our world with SS), economically disadvantaging people who prioritize having children is a huge risk.
Nobody is economically disadvantaging people with kids. The question at hand is how much we as a society are choosing to advantage them with tax benefits and social services. Including free education! Having kids is pretty great.
Hell, think about how childless people must feel about this. Or the child tax credit. Nothing is "perfectly fair", but sometimes public policy is good enough.