I'm not sure that's it. It's a contradiction that we have social media where people share their lives and that people are risk averse to having videos made of themselves.

It's not a contradiction: people don't share their real lives, they share a curated and often dishonest version of their lives. Obviously people don't want negative videos shared publicly.

And seeing some content commented online. Even that curated part might not sell the personality. I might even say that decent chunk of people who put their lives online are less than stable or good partner material.

There are people running around poisoning produce and posting it online—I don't think camera shyness is an element of it.

Those people are psychopaths and the exception to the rule

just don't go to Coldplay concerts!

If both you and your date are marred to other people.