Re:The Electric Fence Stopped Working Years Ago
by laurent_du on Wednesday August 06, 2025 @11:21AM
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Good article but I don't understand where the HN title comes from.
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Re:The Electric Fence Stopped Working Years Ago
by stroz on Wednesday August 06, 2025 @11:33AM
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Thank you for pointing this out! By "missing social cues" I mean we're not recognizing that it's safe to reach out, we're missing the cue that the "fence" (fear of rejection, seeming needy, etc.) isn't real anymore. Like the dog who won't leave the porch, we think the barrier still exists when it's actually just conditioning from old experiences.