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Re:Japan requires name change after marriage – big effects o... by palmotea on Sunday July 06, 2025 @10:26PM (#44486167)
> If raising a kid has become much harder today in some cases, then it's even more impractical to have many kids without having a joint family to support you.

My point is raising a kid isn't actually harder. Also the intense effort can backfire, resulting is worse off kids (e.g. the anxiety and lack of resilience that results from helicopter parenting).

My other point is the joint family thing seems like a wash: yes they can support you, but you also have to support them in equal measure.

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Re:Japan requires name change after marriage – big effects o... by porridgeraisin on Monday July 07, 2025 @12:08AM (#44486671)
> you also have to support them in equal measure

On aggregate over the course of your life, yes, but that's not a useful thing to state is it. It is certainly not true for an individual day/week, you get a lot of extra help when you're raising kids. It becomes more true once the kids reach a certain age where they are amenable to listening to anyone in the house, freeing up the parents for what you mentioned.

The difference is simply night and day, having seen both first hand.

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