How my ADHD makes handling relationships difficult

Re:How my ADHD makes handling relationships difficult by jmathai on Monday May 05, 2025 @09:49PM (#43901121)

I haven’t been diagnosed with ADHD and this isn’t a particular weak spot for me but even I can relate. I find it most hard when there’s a mismatch in reciprocity.

I enjoy learning from posts like this because it can help identify patterns I might not have otherwise noticed. From there I can do something.

Something I do periodically is scroll my iMessages and see if there are conversations that have been dormant longer than I’d like. If so, I try to think of something to resurrect the thread.

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Re:How my ADHD makes handling relationships difficult by a5c11 on Tuesday May 06, 2025 @07:36AM (#43903946)

Nothing worse than a conversation about nothing for a pure sake of having a conversation. That's one of my anxiety triggers - pointless talks. People seem to demand them, even love them, yet there's me hating those accidental talks without a subject. Double my anxiety when the conversation suddenly stops, and there's nothing in my head to talk about.

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Re:How my ADHD makes handling relationships difficult by rchaud on Tuesday May 06, 2025 @08:59AM (#43904599)

> I find it most hard when there’s a mismatch in reciprocity.

A sad part of life is acknowledging that in relationships, one person usually cares more than the other. This is why we're encouraged to build OK friendships with several people instead of putting all our apples in one really good friend.

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