I completely understand the feeling, but when's the last time pointing fingers actually got you anywhere? :)

I personally don't see the value in that. I'd rather spend time fixing something than getting people to fix it for me, and having someone just to point fingers at them after a failure feels cowardly. But maybe I'm just not a managerial type.

That's a time vs. outsourcing trade-off. When everything is working, it's invisible and great, but if something breaks, and if you're in the middle of the something, you either have to postpone it, or stop everything and fix the problem to be able to continue your life unaffected.

I'm into self-hosting, and host some of my services myself, but get some services too, because I have limited time and don't want to stop drop and roll when something breaks.

Sounds like a recipe for getting people with knowledge of security best practices and people with knowledge of the systems being developed, but not both at the same time.

Of course it's not just you. That seems somewhat obvious. Also plenty of people that do like tinkering on their homelab or self host. It's definitely the more interesting choice!