And decision fatigue is a real thing. Even if the ice cream flavour/engineering decision is maybe not perfectly optimal, there's some value in not having to make the decision myself
Re:Ask for no, don't ask for yes (2022)
by contrast on Sunday February 23, 2025 @03:41AM
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For sure - actions before words and all that.
I think the context is different if you’ve shown you care twice a day for a year before screwing up. Most people interpret messages in light of their experience of you.
If you don’t have that track record, the words probably have a different flavor.
Re:Ask for no, don't ask for yes (2022)
by kortilla on Sunday February 23, 2025 @04:07PM
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Again, you’re just doing it for things that aren’t real rules.
Try:
- Intentionally violating a safety protocol in a hardware lab
- taking company property for yourself
- stealing from a vendor
- sexually harassing your direct reports
What this thread seems to be talking about is violating soft process norms.
It’s not about breaking rules. It’s that I already know what you want.
If I buy you ice cream without asking you for the flavor, it’s because I already know what you want because I pay attention to you.
And it doesn’t matter when I get it wrong because you appreciated the 500 other times I cared about you.