As a linux fanboy recently trapped in a windows world, I actually find Particular stuff not so bad to work with.
It's on the friendlier end of the spectrum among the tooling I help manage, at least compared to Microsoft crap.
Either way I'm feeling quite validated by your rage, so thanks for sharing. I feel like we could be good friends.
Also, ServiceControl, ServiceInsight and ServicePulse are inventions of developers who are clearly WinAdmins who don't know what modern DevOps is. If you want to use that, you are bad and should feel bad.
(Sorry, I have absolute rage around this topic)
EDIT: If you insist, use MassTransit (https://masstransit.io/)