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Re:You're not a senior engineer until you've worked on a leg... by ChrisMarshallNY on Monday February 17, 2025 @09:18PM (#43085412)
Well, I have found that finding things in common with people is usually a great segue into improving relationships. Learning more about them, also helps a lot. Find the things they care about. It can be surprising.

I have learned to make the first move, myself. It doesn’t work, if I insist on them doing it. Also, I need to accept their value system. If they truly have values that I can’t deal with, I usually “compartmentalize” things, so I don’t deal with them, in those areas.

I’ve spent my entire adult life, getting along with people that don’t play well with others. I haven’t always been able to get through, but I’ve had more success than failure.

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Re:You're not a senior engineer until you've worked on a leg... by KronisLV on Tuesday February 18, 2025 @10:01AM (#43090278)
> Also, I need to accept their value system. If they truly have values that I can’t deal with, I usually “compartmentalize” things, so I don’t deal with them, in those areas.

It feels like working with all sorts of people (and sometimes working around them) is an important skill that’s not usually focused on enough, which is how you get people that might be brilliant but also are really hard to work together with.

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