A decade later, a decade lost

Re:A decade later, a decade lost by iamacyborg on Saturday February 15, 2025 @05:45AM (#43057561)

A bit daft, but my dad died when I was 6 and I had (and probably still have) a lot of issues expressing grief at the time.

I absolutely lost it when a pet goldfish died ~5 years later. This kind of stuff can come up at the weirdest time.

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Re:A decade later, a decade lost by svieira on Saturday February 15, 2025 @11:39AM (#43059847)

What I have found is that each new grief brings all the others with it. Morning the new sorrow is tied up with morning the old sorrows.

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Re:A decade later, a decade lost by iamacyborg on Saturday February 15, 2025 @12:01PM (#43060068)

Hmm, I've not really found that to be the case personally. Past that initial shit period up until my late teens, subsequent losses and grief has been quite different.

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Re:A decade later, a decade lost by hinkley on Sunday February 16, 2025 @02:31PM (#43070896)

I had an unrequited love thing in college that never got resolved but I gave up and started trying to date. The second one sat me down one day and said we were only ever going to be friends. I was grumpy the rest of the night but when I got home I just crumbled to dust. We would have been a terrible match, so it was the right thing to do. I don’t even know that we would have been friends except we had one in common. I didn’t understand why I felt so unanchored around her and so we stopped hanging out. Which I realized is just the sort of thing women complain about with male friendships but what can you do.

It took a while to realize I wasn’t grieving her. I was jammed in the Denial phase of a previous loss and adding a few more rocks to the pile caused an avalanche. I’m betting that’s what happened with your goldfish.

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