"Government out of the marriage business entirely" would be great. Also agreed on the government providing civil unions that give all the current rights and privileges currently set up under what is currently known as marriage.

As far as I can tell, the only feasible way that we get there is by the states allowing same-sex marriage, and then the FedGov comes along for the ride, followed by FedGov doing a ''mutatis mutandis'' change in law to talk about civil unions.