> Alice was more thoughtful and well-spoken during than Bob and Charlie

Is a relative statement. Someone who expresses anger in one culture can be considered thoughtful and in another culture can be considered disrespectful.

I agree it's super complex and even believe that it may have been too formulated and structured. I personally want humans of different cultures to befriend each other. But intercultural connection can be uncomfortable and hard and have lots of conflict, and some people don't do that well without some nudging.

Again, I think the nudging has gone too far, yet I don't think the solution is to pendulum swing all the way back.