She had the same reaction to two different people dying. So either she has a complicated relationship with both the cousin and brother or she’s the problem.

I put my money on the mother because people do weak stuff like that all the time. Can’t get over a little awkwardness to do the right thing because people aren’t self aware and fragile.

I think you could use a little more generosity in your very cold, uninformed interpretation of this person.

Ironically I think your opinions are cold as hell. Think about how the brother feels. He’s dying and his sister won’t see him one last time because it might be awkward?

I don’t understand people. If someone is suffering and wants to commit suicide then people call them selfish, but a fully grown woman can’t visit her dying brother because it’s awkward and I’m the asshole for calling it out?

Why do people always take the perspective of the person not suffering?

I'm not taking the perspective of anyone here because there's hardly any information for me to do that. You're the one that has constructed this whole scenario in your mind based off very little from OP's post.

Yes. To start with my mum lives on her own since my dad died not long before this, has macular degeneration so is going blind, and seeing her brother required a trip of 8 hours or do each way. Not a trivial undertaking.

She also wasn’t seriously thinking about not going, just needed a bit of extra encouragement.