yeah I think the truth is in the middle. You definitely have to prepare to be rejected by quite a few people who really don't want to talk and couldn't give a shit less about you. That party is hard for me. When I finally get over the anxiety and start to talk, it's difficult not to take the rejection hard.

Timing and location is super important too though I haven't figured out the best places. Haven't had much luck at bars and stuff despite that being a common suggestion. Everyone seems to be there already with a social group and have zero interest in meeting a stranger.