Anyway, the call for a sync model is nearly as old as node is and I agree that a solid thread implementation should be part of node for those who like to code this way.
And it is not a call for a sync model. It is a call for a sane API.
About a benchmark, I have none, but it is the nature of threading. Threads need to store and switch contexts. Even if it is just a few 100KBs with 100000 connections this easily multiplies to a gig of additional memory use. In the real world this is often a few MBs per thread making that scale even impossible for a mid class server.
Here's a paper on using userland threads to get the API advantages of threading, with the scaling advantages of event driven programming: http://static.usenix.org/events/hotos03/tech/vonbehren.html