Re:How to Grow Professional Relationships
by zafka on Wednesday December 04, 2024 @06:08PM
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I really identify with your last sentence! Well actually your whole comment.
Re:How to Grow Professional Relationships
by Dracophoenix on Thursday December 05, 2024 @10:11AM
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> Pretty much every relationship I have "doesn't come natural." I need to put conscious effort into every one.
In what way exactly?
Re:How to Grow Professional Relationships
by ChrisMarshallNY on Thursday December 05, 2024 @12:19PM
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Hard to explain. I don't "get" people, naturally. I don't feel the "proper" emotions, for situations, I have a fairly self-sufficient internal world, that doesn't really "need" other people.
It's made me a good coder, but has made my relationships challenging.
It's really a long story, and one that others have told, far better than I can.
Pretty much every relationship I have "doesn't come natural." I need to put conscious effort into every one.
I have also been involved in an organization, for most of my adult life, that has been instrumental, in helping to force me to have relationships with others, and it has taught me to be a good friend, and has given me good friends.
I'm not really into "transactional" relationships. In many cases, the extent of our relationship is only where we need to work with each other. I don't need to be their buddy, but, in the context of our work, I have found that it helps me to develop a true interest in the other person.
In my experience, I have realized that I'm actually a "people person." I really like people, and have found great utility, in ignoring my prejudices, and actually finding out a lot about the others in my life.