And even if you spend a lot of die space on memory controllers, you can only fit so many GDDR chips around the GPU core while maintaining signal integrity. HBM sidesteps that issue but it's still too expensive for anything but the highest end accelerators, and the ordinary LPDDR that Apple uses is lacking in bandwidth compared to GDDR, so they have to compensate with ginormous amounts of IO silicon. The M4 Ultra is expected to have similar bandwidth to a 4090 but the former will need a 1024bit bus to get there while the latter is only 384bit.
If we're being reasonable and say that you're not using a modern HEDT CPU that costs a couple thousand, the best a consumer botherboard can get right now would be 2x 8x PCIe gen 5 at 32GB/s and one chipset x8 PCIe gen 4 at 16GB/s. I'm not sure if a motherboard like that actually exists but Intel's chipset should allow it; AMD only does x4 to chipset so the third slot is limited by that