Email is far from perfect, but good enough and its federated nature means it's reasonable for institutions to use it as a default mode of communication and authentication.
What exactly is the alternative to federation? Is it possible for everyone to be their own admin?
In any case, under feudalism serfs didn't have the freedom to choose and switch their feudal lord as they saw fit.
I also believe it. I don't want to have to subject myself to the X dumpster fire or sign away my data to Facebook just to receive communications from my local police department or child's school.
These ‘federated’ systems are just recreating feudalism in cyberspace.
Edit: Well even worse in some ways, since it’s not like a majority of the ‘gentry’ and ‘nobles’ could challenge and seize control of e.g. a Mastodon instance from the owner.
I think the central question is how people can collectively own a node and organize its decision making. Federation of dictatorships is not a democracy, it's feudalism.