Insofar as your H20 vs DNA comparison, I merely used water as a way to show relative "scale". That is, HOW MUCH fluid volume (relative to the order of magnitude of size of atoms) would it take to contain the requisite number of RNA. Because when it comes to probabilities of finding astronomically unlikely combinations, astronomically large numbers is key. I think in a mole of random Rubicks cubes, hundreds will be "accidentally solved" (I forgot those numbers, so check my math, on that one)
The reason I threw in the "give or take 2 orders of magnitude" caveat was precisely because I knew someone like you would accuse me of relating H20 to RNA in a way in which I didn't. Other planets will have different atoms, not necessary water-based life, but planets even the size of a swimming pool have the "numbers game" power to create life.
For example, if you ask most people how many randomly occurring Rubiks Cubes will just be accidentally solved even with Avogrdro's number of them, their answer is usually zero; and unsurprisingly they're the same ones claiming there had to be a God to create even the initial replicator.
You can wave big numbers around but none of that makes a convincing argument; it's not hard to construct any number of scenarios where self replicators are started but don't lead to true life.
Also you're comparing a gram of water to a bunch of bases; H2O is not DNA.