My secret has just been consistently going to bed and getting up at the same time as my wife, who is not a night owl, every night. Some nights are frustrating and take me longer to fall asleep, most mornings I feel bit groggy, and I'm overall not thrilled with my experience with sleep, but I'm able to keep a consistent schedule without rubberbanding amounts of sleep, I'm rarely truly exhausted during the day, and my waking hours overlaps consistently with society and businesses.

It's certainly an imperfect compromise, but it works well enough.