> Is it really child abuse if no children were involved?

I hope that there are people out there who know the true answer.

It takes a special kind of person to seek the truth about something that people feel so strongly about. The truth doesn't care about us or how we feel. Finding it is a thankless task full of distractions and dead ends. If a perspective makes sense and rings true to me, that says more about me than it does about whether the perspective describes reality.