Re:Agile Dating: A Less Painful Way to Date
by satisfice on Sunday June 16, 2024 @05:47PM
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STOP with the de-humanizing methodologies.
There is no clean way to bond your life with another life. No clean way to procreate, or die or grieve.
It’s all messy and stressful. But when you turn courtship into a “lifehack” you are not increasing authenticity and control, you are alienating yourself from your own process.
An authentic way to approach “Agile dating” would be to be clear with yourself about who you are and what you want. Then act from that. Don’t accept any best practices. Apply heuristics that seem reasonable. If that happens to map to the elaborate process that this author calls agile dating, so be it.
But I’m guessing that a simpler approach would work better for most of us.
There is no clean way to bond your life with another life. No clean way to procreate, or die or grieve.
It’s all messy and stressful. But when you turn courtship into a “lifehack” you are not increasing authenticity and control, you are alienating yourself from your own process.
An authentic way to approach “Agile dating” would be to be clear with yourself about who you are and what you want. Then act from that. Don’t accept any best practices. Apply heuristics that seem reasonable. If that happens to map to the elaborate process that this author calls agile dating, so be it.
But I’m guessing that a simpler approach would work better for most of us.