I wish it really were that simple. I dont think it is.
Additionally, your suggestion fundamentally dismisses my main point: This is apparently a bigger issue for women than men generally.
And when men act like it's unreasonable for a woman to be aware this is a bigger issue for women and to toss that detail out there in public discussion, it's just a no win situation for women.
The people most impacted are routinely treated like they are whiners who should just shut up and accept that no one will bother to care.
And not just about gender. People of color also routinely get treated crappily for being the ones who bring up X issue when no one else will and they bring it up because they are the ones aware of it.
FWIW I hardly look at usernames and judge the comments anonymously, at least at first.