> button is a different button by the time you see the old button and click on it

This is somewhat exacerbated by, ironically, UI mostly being async these days. Back then, if app was slow, it would usually block the UI thread outright, so you couldn't click anything until processing was done. But these days UI is usually "responsive" in a sense that you can interact with it, and lag instead manifests by UI getting out of sync with the actual state (and constantly trying to catch up with it, causing the problem you describe).