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Re:The Effects of Early Relational Trauma (2001) [pdf] by usefulcat on Tuesday May 21, 2024 @11:25PM (#40437016)
> People that haven't experienced it and recovered from it a bit are really good at not believing how common it is.

Also, for people who have experienced it, it's often the last thing they'd ever want to talk about. With anyone, including people they are really close to.

There's a good chance you could have a close personal friend or even your partner and never know they had gone through something like that.

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Re:The Effects of Early Relational Trauma (2001) [pdf] by smeej on Wednesday May 22, 2024 @07:03AM (#40439546)
I'm really glad to see courageous people changing the trend on this one, though I hope it continues to be an invitation to others to share, not a demand.

These kinds of things fester in darkness and loneliness. I think bringing them out into the light where we can find out we're not alone is helping.

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Re:The Effects of Early Relational Trauma (2001) [pdf] by sage76 on Wednesday May 22, 2024 @11:38AM (#40442308)
> it's often the last thing they'd ever want to talk about. With anyone, including people they are really close to.

'Get over it' is the most common response. That's why they shut up about it. People who are close to them are only close because of something positive that is being offered. Nobody wants to deal with anyone else's issues.

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