Even if you construe this phrase as unequivocally negative, you can't scrub negative emotions and intentions. If you were able to actually scrub some word or phrase from the language, another would take its place, like with all the racial and intellectual disability slurs.

Yes; I'm basically saying one should reconsider before ever using this phrase, as it drips with condescension, and therefore is not conducive to productive discourse.

There is a time to be productive and a time to be condescending.

When being condescended to it's your choice to either be incensed or reflect on maybe you deserved it.

> When being condescended to it's your choice to either be incensed or reflect

Or just chuckle at and ignore the misinformed idiot doing the condescension and move on with your life if appropriate.

It is the modern lexicon, it's from the game of thrones.