Re:Jonathan Haidt blames teenage depression, anxiety on smar...
by eszed on Sunday April 21, 2024 @02:40PM
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This is dead on. I find, however, that you have to be careful about revealing your secret, at least in so many words. I had (more or less) the following interaction with a parent we see occasionally:
Them: "How'd you get $oneYearOld to do $that?"
Me: [Explains]
Them: "That's clever"
Me (unguardedly): "Yeah, it's basically like dog-training - [more or less what you said]."
Them: [Dirty look]
A year on I don't think they've started another conversation with me. Lol. I have the "bad parent" rep, but everyone likes our kid, so I really, really don't care.
[Edit: It's all positive reinforcement, mind. I'm not yelling or beating the kid, or anything like that. The objection is to a mental association between the child and an animal. My wife initially had the same.
Them: "How'd you get $oneYearOld to do $that?"
Me: [Explains]
Them: "That's clever"
Me (unguardedly): "Yeah, it's basically like dog-training - [more or less what you said]."
Them: [Dirty look]
A year on I don't think they've started another conversation with me. Lol. I have the "bad parent" rep, but everyone likes our kid, so I really, really don't care.
[Edit: It's all positive reinforcement, mind. I'm not yelling or beating the kid, or anything like that. The objection is to a mental association between the child and an animal. My wife initially had the same.