When you were a baby, many people were kind to you in ways that you don't remember. Was that also pointless?

I also think this goes well beyond the relatives. Part of being in a society is caring for one another. Here I am on another continent, and I feel better that these people are taking a moment to mark someone's passing. If it doesn't matter to you, fine, you don't have to do it. But I don't get why you're putting so much energy into being negative about it.