This is fundamentally a problem of perspective. As the guy using software X you believe you are doing open source maintainers a favour by going there and telling them about a thing that is wrong or missing in your opinion.

But we all should realize that any interaction also comes with a cost. If you report a problem and don't manage to describe it well it doesn't help the maintainers one tiny bit, in fact it might just create work and a bad feeling.

So my approach is to "just" write stellar bug reports including ways of bisecting where the problem might come from.