This is harsh but tree, but it's not simple. People are different. Some shrug off things naturally, others try to be empathetic almost to a fault. I've learned to be the former, but when I was younger was much more the latter. I try not to act like it's easy because it took me a while to have that skill. And it is a skill and not built in to me, I still feel the urge but built up the skill of saying "no"