I agree, there's a weird culture barrier almost at times.
My wife was in grad school and pregnant. Some of the instructors seemed completely confused on how to handle things. Others seemed to handle it in stride.
It's like there's an expectation that "you're relatively poor, young" and some other expectations that when that's not the case the system starts to fall apart.
Yep, my wife did a masters degree in a program "for professionals", which was very clearly designed around people between the ages of 22 and 25, with empty evenings and weekends and definitely no children :)
My wife is friendly pursuing her bachelor’s and it is clear to both of us that universities are really just tolerant of non-traditional students. You won’t be treated poorly, but all of the infrastructure, tools, class progression, etc, is constructed around post-Highschool young adults.
It’s been a while since I’ve been to a community college, but I suspect they’re slightly better.