I would rather sit in a train for 69 minutes than sit in a car for 45 minutes. In a car if my attention slips for a second I can kill myself and others. In a train if I fall asleep I may have to take another train.

Cool! You do you. I’d personally rather spend an hour in the car comfortably vs 20 minutes on public transportation where I’ve got a stranger sitting next to me, no privacy, and potentially no seat during rush hour commute times.

Having to stand for 20 minutes is not such a bad deal if you’re in decent health. Hell it’s probably good for you if you spend most of your day sat at a desk.

> if you're in decent health

and if you're not? Not all bad health is a character failure, you know. Some people just have diseases like multiple sclerosis

in the public vs private transit discussion, all I know is that I've never been harassed by someone else in my car on the way to work, but the subway was a different story, and I've spent a lot more time commuting by car than train

> and if you're not?

Priority seating

If you’re not, you use a car, or maybe priority seating. Nobody is saying ban cars, but make them unnecessary for the average person.

If you’re not then you can take one of the priority seats, it doesn’t have to be a big deal.

You seem to be under the significantly confused impression that working to density cities and improve transit options is somehow an attempt to pry your car and single-family home from your cold, dead fingers.

It isn't.

It's about changing incentive structures over the long-term, so more people choose options which have a better set of societal externalities.

I am failing to persuade my brother of this. If someone desperately wants to live in a single-family home an hour away from the city center, they should want the city to be nice and dense and lots of cheap housing with great transit, because that will also make their dream home cheaper!